Enna kodumai saravanan!
My first step into the matrimony-sphere. I should have been excited, but no am not. Not a wee bit.
Why? Coz the profile I got to look at was not that of a girl #-o. Now hold you horses (imagination i.e.). It was a guy :(. NO! Don't let your thoughts run wild again. He is supposedly my junior in college and someone wanted to know about him. PERIOD. The face only reminded me of some kannadika actor :p. I better keep watch or else someone might mistake this for my profession :D.
Some 1st time moments in life are meant to be exciting. Such aaaas - first day at school, first time busted by the teacher, first crush, first love, first job, first salary, first vehicle, first specimen at a matrimony site :D. Oops!
I guess I might too end up doing it someday, but this whole matrimony thing makes me imagine like you are looking at a menu card or making a choice of the prey. As if all were lined up in a virtual zoo for passed by to look at and pick ;).
I know its fun for a lot of people, looking at profiles of the opp. sex and making all sorts of comments they wouldn't dare to otherwise. I had my own share of fun too. My close buddy had come from the US wanting to spend quality time and he was bombarded with so many prospects. I couldn't control my laughter watching him look at the gals profiles and gauging em. I even took a photo of him blushing and started a thread, ;)) wicked me.
Maybe am just conservative. But this whole game makes me think of it as if people up for sale. Glad there is no price tag attached, as yet ;). But its funny when you realize the kinda specs people put up there. Am not gonna discuss that here as it warrants a dedicated post and some research for which I hardly have time. I just realized that these specs are beginning to replace traditional horoscopes and could become the new mantra for a successful marriage, which again is a subjective clause.
I agree this is far better than traditional arranged marriages, but it still feels like shopping for a "thing". Maybe thats what it is :-s, just like picking up the best fitting clothes on that day. Now don't curse me if you get reminded of such things when you browse through matrimony sites :D.
Should I say blessed are those souls who find love before marriage. Spooky when I realize I might end up hunting through matrimony sites :-?. Its soo gross! But thats far away :). Lemme live is peace for as long as I can :).
For now, I'll be happy if I don't have to look at more guy profiles at matrimony sites :D. Cheerios!
9 Comments:
i dont believe when you say "but its far away" he he... comn.. let the world know..
how are rams? been a long time!!!
Dear SamY,
I was going thru ur blog: Fluid to set you on Fire. Liked it!
Now i am searching for Naveens album Fluid. Not able to get anywhere. Can plz mail me the mp3 version of this album if u have?
Thanks!
Rohit KG
Dubai, UAE
@senthil: long time dude :). believe or not it is pretty far away. couple of years is far ;).
doing gr8 dude :). how the do the u? me just chilling out in chennai. any spl news from ur end. don't expect me to believe a no ;).
@rohit: hey rohit. your email-id :-?
Matrimony sites are totally unsafe too. I wonder how ppl base their judgements on the profile alone.
its not very different from an arranged marriage ;) ... only here the guy n gal get to see each other ... ppl usually do all the necessary background check ... can't speak for the vices of those who trust all on the internet
:) nice topic samy! looks like we two have some thoughts in common. Anyways, am blessed to have fallen in love and got married to the same guy. But initally when I used to see my (cousin) sister's profiles being exchanged and guys coming home to see her, only later to reject, I sternly told my parents I will not allow this stupidity! I was 12 or 13 then. I still feel its torture. Maybe in olden days ppl were not this brash and money minded, but now if the girl is wearing specs they outright reject the proposal.
Anyways I feel atleast the matrimonials are slightly better than face to face meetings! Recently I had the "privilege" of writing an matrimonial for a good friend. Its not an easy job esp since u have to find good points to highlight. He hasnt found a gal yet, so I keep telling him to go fall in love!
Its going to be fun to see how u decide to do it!
hey madhu :). actually this whole act of going n visiting potential bride sounds crazy to me :D. Its like shopping for clothes.
** Its not an easy job esp since u have to find good points to highlight.
LOL! its a sales pitch after all ;). don't you find that weird too?
** if the girl is wearing specs they outright reject the proposal
hmm I didn't know. spec's can make some ppl look gud ;) ... weird requirements ppl have
** to go fall in love!
well, you can't deliberate on that you know ... it just happens without knowing ... it wud be gr8 if I do fall for someone :) ... at the least I don't wanna shop for a gal ;)
Maams, completely agree on this statement: "Some 1st time moments in life are meant to be exciting". But in your list of first time moments, how come you missed out on the first time u took a girl(or guy) to bed missing? Is it like it never happened or is it like it wasn't exiting enough to put it in the list above?
PS: taking to bed can be elaborated in various ways, but i shall leave that imagination and elaboration to the readers of this comment of mine.
** Is it like it never happened or is it like it wasn't exiting enough to put it in the list above?
never happened :)
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