Flaunting to fill your stomach
A month or two back I been to a good-bye dinner as one of the girl in our group is leaving after her marriage. We did spend an entire afternoon (a long time ago) getting a worthy gift for her, which was the best part of the evening. The rest was Whine & Dine for me. Not entirely whining, but I was wondering if it was worth it. Do read this sarcastic and mocking article in The Hindu (courtesy iCEeYZ). Much of what is said there is truly what happens.
Most of the time we go to one of the fanciest of places with the fatter menu card (by pricing). All of a sudden it has become a symbol of status. The excuse - once we all get married we would not have an opportunity to spend time and/or money this way *duh*.
Starting off with some unknown starters people laud at the wierly named delicacies. Oh btw, that was a decision made even before tasting it. Order some variety of indian bread, pick some exotic sounding side dishes and usually more than required wasting the rest. It is pretty much the same EVERYTIME. I havent tasted something really exotic as they claim, probably because I ain't a connoisseur of food. But then the folks at the table start saying, "WOW, this stuff is amazing guys. Dont miss it!".
I am not gonna go around saying there are people without square meals a day and we spend like this. Its been so and it will continue to be, and I ain't gonna make a statement as to how one should choose to spend money. Neither am I against such flaunting per se. Most of the time we'd console ourselves saying that we had a great time together. Ain't that what it is all about? So why do we depend on some extravagent indulgence as an excuse to be with people?
Strange that we have come to equating spending money lavishly with having a good time with people.
Most of the time we go to one of the fanciest of places with the fatter menu card (by pricing). All of a sudden it has become a symbol of status. The excuse - once we all get married we would not have an opportunity to spend time and/or money this way *duh*.
Starting off with some unknown starters people laud at the wierly named delicacies. Oh btw, that was a decision made even before tasting it. Order some variety of indian bread, pick some exotic sounding side dishes and usually more than required wasting the rest. It is pretty much the same EVERYTIME. I havent tasted something really exotic as they claim, probably because I ain't a connoisseur of food. But then the folks at the table start saying, "WOW, this stuff is amazing guys. Dont miss it!".
I am not gonna go around saying there are people without square meals a day and we spend like this. Its been so and it will continue to be, and I ain't gonna make a statement as to how one should choose to spend money. Neither am I against such flaunting per se. Most of the time we'd console ourselves saying that we had a great time together. Ain't that what it is all about? So why do we depend on some extravagent indulgence as an excuse to be with people?
Strange that we have come to equating spending money lavishly with having a good time with people.
posted by SamY @ 3/06/2007 09:08:00 AM
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11 Comments:
**So why do we depend on some extravagent indulgence as an excuse to be with people?
Good qn Samy. I guess its like this...expensive stuff usually means class and quality. So when ppl wanna spend some 'classy' n 'quality' time with friends, they try to portray the same tthu how they spend their money too.
I mean wud u rather chat with a good friend at a bus-stop eating a paddle-pop? LOL! I'd opt for a finer environment which ofcourse means spending more MONEY. :)
Having said that, there is ofcourse the beach, the park, the forest, the lake etc etc where it's free and u can still have a great time with friends.
It's a very subjective topic.
Keshi.
I think flaunting is necessary sometimes but too much of it is bad.
Strange that we have come to equating spending money lavishly with having a good time with people-
In case a group of people want to spend time together, whr else can they go (in chennai)? The beach though a gud option is too crowded. I think its bcoz of the lack of decent places to spend time together that ppl resort to such expensive places.
Strange that we have come to equating spending money lavishly with having a good time with people.- i think its due to the lack of decent places to spend time together that ppl resort to goin to such expensive places.
@keshi: what really bothered me wasn't quite the money nutty ... but how ppl behave very differently (as if born in royalty) once they set foot there ... places like that mandate some etiquette ... can't be frolicking like one wud otherwise nah? actually we did and ppl were staring like we commited a murder or something #-o
@arpita: I do agree with ya on that note. Whats the point in sitting at a star restraunt, not being able to crack jokes, giggle and make fun like you would in a much less formal place? you can't go and stick a fork at the neck of ur buddy :D ... c'mon the whole fun is lost ;)
not that I dun like going to such places ... but ppl just b'com artificial and too uptight ... these r the ppl with whome u'v had fun at local places and kai-yendhi bhavans ... n it just feels wierd
maybe I'm bored of this etiquette stuff :) ... having to do it all officially, I'd like to be much less uptight with am with friends ;)
a private dinner / such @ a lavish restraunt ... no restraints wud be lovely ;))
@dinma:
** I think flaunting is necessary sometimes but too much of it is bad.
but not at the cost of having to put a mask when your flaunting ... most time ppl seem to shed themselved n get too poised
LOL thats true...alot of ppl do that. But I dun. Im myself anywhere I may be.
Keshi.
missed ya man.
Keshi.
Samy always know that nothing is IMPOSSIBLE...I'M POSSIBLE. :)
Keshi.
thankx nutty keshi :)
new post pls!!
new post pls!!
enna busya ?
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